How Do I Make My Kid Get Ready For School?
I thought I had it all together with my kids but this morning proved me wrong. I had a ten year old who refused to get organized for school and decided that she would be on a “go slow”. Now I understand that different combinations of kids and parents have an impact on what heppens in individual households. But I would like to share with you what I did this morning at my house.
There has been an ongoing issue with my daughter regarding getting out the door to school on time each morning. Even when I wake her up very early she still seems to muck around every morning. she is regularly late for school by a few minutes and this is a source of frustration for me.
The most important thing to do when you have a child like this is to find out if they are being bullied at school. Once you rule that out then you can concentrate on fixing the problem.
It is important to find a positive way to deal with the problem if at all possible. Perhaps a sticker chart or something that they can get every day to start off with, depending on the age of the child. But early on the rewards should be pretty immediate. Then as the child catches on the rewards can be a bit further apart.
Think of all the possible ways to get your child interested in being on time in the mornings. Only if none of these work will you need to step up the pace and think of a negative consequence. This morning, unfortunately, my daughter threw tantrums and did all sorts of peculiar things which led me to believe that I needed to change my tactic just a little bit.
Becky is finally gone to school now and it’s time to dream up her consequence. Because she chose to throw a tantrum like a little child I have decided to deprive her of some things that are reserved for older girls. I shall be taking away her favorite earrings and also a few random items of “grown up” clothing. They will go up into my top cupboard. Beck will be devastated but I will explain to her that those kinds of things are reserved for girls who act their age and don’t throw tantrums.
Always try to match the crime to the punishment. In my case I am letting Becky know that because she threw a tantrum she should not be wearing grown up clothes. Make sure that you talk through it with the child so they understand why you are doing what you do.
I shall have a chat to Beck after school today and explain my reasons behind my actions. The good thing is that I will give her a chance to earn her clothes and jewellery back very quickly. If she can show me three days getting off to school on time again I will quickly produce her favorite earrings again. I want to show her that the quality of her life is directly related to the decisions that she makes.
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