Behavior Plans for Teens - 4 Specific Techniques
“I have started parenting and I can’t find any behavior management plans?”. Do they even make them? You bet and you too can better your skills so you can be an effective parent.
Dr. James Lehman’s Total Transformation has several key concepts that teach your child responsibility and accountability. You will learn these concepts and also how to use them.
The Concepts
Behavior plans must have solid concepts that have been proven to work. Below are 4 of these that I found gave me results right away. Seeing these type of results gave me confidence in the program as a whole.
1. Focus on a Single Issue. Kids love to get the spotlight off them and have a myriad of techniques to do so. One is bringing up another problem when you are trying to discuss something else. Don’t go down that path, even if you need to have notes to keep you on track. You can tell them you will discuss their issue at a later time. Then go ahead with your point. You will definitely experience less frustration, always a good thing in parenting.
2. The Consequences. Be sure to tell your children what the consequences are when you are explaining the rules. These consequences are the best way to respond to bad behavior. They establish law and order. Remember, it is short term structure and values you are trying to maintain. Lasting change, however will not come from the consequences. It will come from the consequences causing them to yearn for their own change. Also base them on your child’s behavior, not what you think they are thinking.
3. Selective Attention. While a lot of parenting skills takes fortitude, this one gives you a break. Simply ignore negative behavior that is not important. Behaviors that are meant to get attention can be ignored as long as they are not abusive. Everyone in the family (or involved in caring for the child) must be in on this. The upside to this is that you will pay close attention to positive behavior. This is where your child will benefit the most and where you will start to see a new effort on their part to change.
4. Redirect Interest. This concept also utilizes another skill out of your parenting toolbox-creative thinking. When your child is stuck on negative thinking, change the topic. Switching the activity or conversation will stop the downward mood spiral. This concept can also work well when coupled with the above noted Selective Attention. This will also teach them how doing something positive and productive can change their mood.
These 4 concepts will greatly enhance your child’s behavior plans. And they can do so without you having to exert a lot of extra parenting effort.
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