What To Do To Help Children Not To Fight
What do you do when kids fight? My kids are not perfect and today they had a fist fight. You see, we can’t control what our children do but we can control our reaction to it.
I was busy working in the kitchen when I heard some bad language coming from my boys. So I decided to go and investigate. The three boys were all in a heap on top of each other in the lounge and they were having a scrap about something. For those of you who don’t have boys, you will never understand. This is a “boy” thing.
One of them was choking another boy so I helped them apart. I tried to figure out how I would deal with this fighting.I sent the boys to their bedrooms and tried to make sense of what had happened.
And do you know what? My boys gave me three different versions. Hmmm…
It was really bad timing for the boys as they had just organized for a friend to sleep over because it was school holidays. I told the boys that they would have to ring back their friend and cancel the sleepover on account of their violent episode. Then I went out for an hour, leaving them at home.
I hoped that my kids would take the opportunity to do something to earn back their sleepovers. I just gave them the opportunity to surprise me and give me just cause to reinstate their privilege that had just been taken from them.
Well, as I pulled up in the driveway I could hear the vacuum going. As I walked into the kitchen there was one boy furiously washing dishes as if his life depended on it. And the third boy was tidying in the lounge. Now that is what I was hoping for.
Now you need to understand that I did have every right to cancel the sleepovers. But I was hoping that the boys would put in some effort to show me that they were sorry for their behavior. And that they did. I was thrilled with their efforts so decided that their sleepovers could go ahead as planned. I am always looking for opportunities to extend grace to my children and I definitely extended grace to them this day when they didn’t deserve it.
My kids apologized to each other and away they went. But you can be sure that if there is another occurence these holidays the penalty will be severe.
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